The Gift of Adversity: Setbacks As Opportunities

The Gift of Adversity: Setbacks As Opportunities



Adversity is inescapable. We have an inner drive for comfort, and when we encounter something unpleasant or uncomfortable, our initial reaction is to reject it. We don’t want to deal with things we don’t like, so we try to push them away from us.

But what if the unpleasant is actually an opportunity? What if adversity is a gift? How could this be?

We turn to Marcus Aurelius Anderson, who conquered his worst nightmare. By overcoming what he thought was an unsurmountable obstacle, he has come to realize how much potential lies in the human spirit. His greatest adversity turned out to be a gift with lifelong value.

On today’s podcast:

  • How Marcus overcame paralysis from the neck down
  • The insights the experience gave him
  • How hard work must be combined with the right mindset to achieve success

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It began with the military.

Not long after his uncle, a Vietnam veteran, passed away, Marcus wanted to honour his memory and service to his country. So he decided to join the military; specifically, in the infantry.

His professional background and skillset gave him, effectively, whatever choice of role in the military he wanted. But he wanted to be the best soldier he could be, and get into the midst of protecting his country. So he joined the infantry.

A childhood nightmare made manifest.

One day after training, he felt some numbness in his extremities. He explained it away to himself as a natural consequence of the physical stress of military exercises.

But the next day, he woke up and realized he was paralyzed from the neck down. He tried to get out of bed and he could only move his head a little.

As a child, he had nightmares of not being able to move his body. This was his worst fear, and it was happening to him, now. Luckily, military personnel were near his quarters and were able to get him immediate medical attention.

A terrible prognosis.

After being rushed to hospital and examined, a disc rupture was discovered in his neck. Marcus was prepared for surgery.

He flatlined twice during the operation, but made it out. Unfortunately, the doctor told him he would never be able to walk again.

This plunged him into a deep depression. He thought about committing suicide, but couldn’t actualize it because of the paralysis. He raged at everyone he came across during his early recovery.

But mostly, he was furious at himself for what he felt was wasted time on tasks with no meaning to him.

“There’s got to be something here for me to learn.”

Marcus decided to try to just go with his new reality, to try to find something positive in what had happened to him. To see if, maybe, there was a silver lining to all this.

About a week later, after he changed his mindset, he started feeling movement in his fingers and his toes. He used that remarkable progress as a cornerstone, onto which he could build up the rest of his recovery.

It took three months before anything moved, and almost an entire year before he could walk with the aid of a walker. Eventually he was discharged from long-term care, and still needed occupational therapy to maintain his progress.

But he had done the impossible. He was walking when the experts said it was impossible. He had lived through and overcame his greatest nightmare.

Sharing his story to motivate others and to close the dark chapter.

Marcus wrote his book, “The Gift of Adversity” because he hoped that others suffering from major setbacks could take benefit from it. Even if only one person took any comfort or motivation from the book, that would’ve been enough to make Marcus feel that he had done his job.

Marcus also shared his story for catharsis. By putting his awful experience – and the profound growth he found as a result of it – down on paper, he found he could create closure for himself, and move on to the next chapter in his life.

“Nothing is worth having until you pay a price.”

Through his work as a Mindset Coach, Marcus shares the core insight from overcoming his greatest setback: that hard work must be underlined with the right mindset, and the right mindset needs hard work to drive it forward.

Human beings have remarkable potential. But we can’t draw on our tremendous reserves of strength unless we have something to push us forward, to challenge us.

And when you see that challenge, when you encounter that adversity – whether it’s a dissatisfied customer, an argument with a manufacturer, or a catastrophic injury – if you see it as an opportunity for learning, not as something to be avoided, you will grow. You will become stronger. You will find a way to overcome, and tap into your hidden potential

That’s the gift of adversity.


How to Use Video to Communicate Your Brand Online

How to Use Video to Communicate Your Brand Online



Businesses are increasingly getting into video as a medium to market themselves and their brands. Platforms like Facebook Live, YouTube, and Instagram allow you to broadcast live video streams to connect directly with your audience and create your own TV show.

But the questions are, “how do you make professional looking videos?”, “should I use freelancers or do everything myself?”, and “what tools do I need to get it done?”.

It’s time to bring back our resident video expert, Sheryl Plouffe, who loves questions about taking what you’re already doing and incorporating video.

On today’s podcast:

  • Simplified editing and workflow tips for authentic branding
  • The pros and cons of editing yourself
  • The pros and cons of outsourcing video editing
  • Sheryl’s app recommendations

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Simplified editing and workflow tips for authentic branding

Sheryl dispels myths about the complexities and time constraints of video editing.

You can shoot and edit video on-the-go with your smartphone or tablet. This can be an incredibly effective use of time, enabling you to record, edit and share your content from anywhere.

For example, Sheryl edits video content on her phone during with her son’s hockey practice!

The pros and cons of editing video yourself

The pros:

  1. It’s faster – once you get used to the workflow and the process of editing becomes automatic, it gets really fast. Whereas with outsourcing, the turnaround time can be much longer.
  2. It’s affordable – this is the bootstrapped option
  3. You have complete control of the branding – you can, of course, instruct a freelancer or employee how you want your message to be communicated, but that’s much simpler when you are completely hands-on with the process.

The cons:

  1. The learning curve – you need to spend a little time getting up to speed on the processes
  2. It can take a little more time when you’re starting out

A tip for simplifying the editing process is to write and practice your script so that you record your 2-3 minute video in one take. This means you have much less editing to do.

The pros and cons of outsourcing video production

The pros:

  1. If you’re not tech savvy, it can be a better use of your time to outsource

The cons:

  1. You have to find the right person to work with who understands your brand and how you want to communicate yourself
  2. Turnaround times are longer – editors have other clients, so your work can take up to a week to produce
  3. Costs – you obviously have to consider the budget for content creation

Sheryl encourages us to consider what kind of content we are creating. If we are making long-form, sales page content that is highly scripted, you may want to outsource the editing to ensure you get it looking professional.

But for in-the-moment, authentic 2-3 minute videos you are making on a daily or weekly basis, it can be better to do it yourself for all the reasons mentioned above.

Sheryl’s app recommendations

Sheryl suggests a couple of apps that can make editing video yourself simple.

  • Video Shop for iPhone and iPad
  • Video Leap – for green screen technology right on your phone
  • Camtasia Studio – for desktop video editing
  • Fuse – companion app to Camtasia for easy file sharing

If you are looking to outsource, Sheryl recommends contacting your local school or college to see if there are students looking for video editing work.

Freelance marketplaces like Upwork and Fiverr are other great places to source video editors.

Connect with Sheryl

Join Sheryl’s Facebook Group, Personal Brand Breakthrough for a community full of resources and tips to using video to communicate your brand online.


How to identify future trends and turn disruption and change into opportunity

How to Identify Future Trends and Turn Disruption and Change into Opportunity



On today’s podcast, we’re joined by the world’s leading futurist on global trends and innovations, and author of The Anticipatory Organization: Turn disruption and change into opportunity and advantage, Daniel Burrus.

Daniel will be sharing his extensive knowledge to help you understand how trends can be predicted, and how to utilize these trends to develop your business.

On today’s podcast:

  • What is the Anticipatory Organization model?
  • The biggest missing competency of any organization
  • Understanding the different types of trends
  • How do you identify the next trend?
  • Learning to embrace disruption

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What is The Anticipatory Organization Model?

The Anticipatory Organization Model provides a framework for identifying certainties in the market and for leaping ahead of your competition with much lower risk.

Developed by today’s guest Daniel Burrus, it is used by some of the largest companies in the world and has seen outstanding results. 

The biggest missing competency of any organization

Many organizations believe that agility is the most important competency for an organization to possess. Daniel believes that reacting to problems and digital disruptions, no matter how agile you or your organization are, is no longer good enough.

The world is moving at a technology driven pace which is exponential in its rate. So organizations need a way to identify the direction in which technology is moving.

By using the methodology that Daniel teaches in his book, organizations can see disruptions before they disrupt.

This foresight allows you to identify the problems that you or your customer are going to have before they happen, and pre-solve them. What’s more, it gives you the ability to see game-changing opportunities upon which you can base your own innovations with low risk.

Understanding the different types of trends

Most of us don’t spend much time looking at trends, and when we do the difficulty is identifying which ones will happen.

Daniel believes there are only really two types of trend and that once you understand their characteristics you’ll be better placed to predict which will happen.

  1. Hard Trends.

Hard trends are based on future facts. They provide you with certainty in a seemingly uncertain world, and a business strategy based on certainty is low risk.

  1. Soft Trends.

Soft trends are based on an assumption. Often business leaders believe that assumption is a fact and treat it as such. As a result, soft trends carry higher risk.

How do you identify the next trend?

Predicting everything is not realistic so organizations need to be agile and able to react fast to the unseen.

The new competency that Daniel has identified is how much you can see and pre-act on before the future event. With the pace of change ever increasing it’s better to get ahead of it than to languish behind it.

Daniel teaches that it’s easier than you might think to identify trends. Particularly in the case of hard trends which tend to fall within very clear identifiable categories.

  1. Demographics.

As an example, in the US  there are 78 million baby boomers and it’s a hard trend that they’re going to get older. With this hard trend comes the opportunity to identify the problems this will cause and pre-solve them, creating business opportunities in the process. These baby boomers will get older, when they do what will their needs be and how can you solve them before the problems arise.

  1.  Technology.

Technology is amazingly predictable. We have 4G wireless, you’ve heard about 5G wireless so can you predict what is coming next? 6G. The same applies to storing information on the cloud, it’s a hard trend that will continue to grow.

  1. Government Regulation.

When a new law is passed we instinctively look at all of the things about it that we don’t like. Daniel suggests that you should be looking at the things you do like. Look for the areas of these new laws that will cause issues for others and create a service that will solve this. Using this method of identification you can Innovate with low risk.

Learning to embrace disruptions

Many leaders are afraid of disruptions. This is due to previous experiences of disruptions that have hit hard and messed things up. Disruption can mess up your career, products, services, customers, and people do not like this kind of disruption.

Leaders often believe that no one likes change which causes fear of disruption. This is not always true since not all change is negative.

So what’s the bad kind of change? It’s the kind that catches you by surprise.  

According to Daniel most of the time, these changes could have been predicted. There are ways that you can see these things coming and Daniel’s book has a methodology that allows you to do just that.


Leadership in a Multi-Generational Workforce

Leadership in a Multi-Generational Workforce



On today’s podcast, we’re joined by Jen Roberts. The President and Founder of Difference Consulting, the resident expert in the field of employee engagement and motivating employees.

Jen says things are rapidly changing in the workplace and leadership in organizations has to respond and adapt to attract and retain multi-generational talent.

Within today’s podcast, we look at the way employees needs have changed and how leaders can create open communication environments for their teams to reach their highest potential.  

On today’s podcast:

  • Organisational Landscape of 2018
  • Millennials in the Workplace
  • The Ideal Working Environment to Drive Engagement
  • Outdated Common Business Practices
  • New Business Practices Leaders Can Embrace Within the Organisation
  • Engaging and Retaining Top Talent in a Multi-Generational Workforce

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Organisational Landscape of 2018

We are entering a critical time where good talent within an organization is essential, as we are impending a global talent shortage, particularly in industries where there is highly skilled labor such as Cyber Security and Engineering.

There is going to be a challenge amongst leaders in organizations if they are not willing to adapt to attract and retain talent.

There’s going to be a lot going on in the next 5-10 years when technology is changing at neck-breaking speed. Plus there will be challenges that come with a multi-generational workforce.

Millennials in the Workplace

Millennial talent is the largest demographic in the workforce, comprising for 75% of the workplace by 2030.

Organizations need to be leveraging their talent and making sure they are prepared to go into leadership positions.

Although there is a pre-conception that millennials are lazy, they are actually willing to work hard. But they also want to work smarter with by leveraging technology.

The Ideal Working Environment to Drive Engagement

Millennials, in particular, are looking for meaningful work, where they are making a valuable contribution to the success of the organization.

Jen says a much more flexible working environment with a humane work environment will help retain talent and encourage people to reach their full potential.

Management also needs to be much more hands-on with transparent communication, giving their employees real autonomy to go and do their best at work.

Outdated Common Business Practices

As opposed to the hierarchical command and control approach, people are now looking for open and continuous communication where you can flow between ‘levels’.

Annual performance reviews are going out of date, as successful leaders create a dialogue between the individuals working in their teams to help them adapt and make changes there in the moment and celebrate successes they are achieving as well.

Jen says we are entering a time where working is going to become much more results-based rather than fixed and ridged.

New Business Practices Leaders Can Embrace Within the Organization

Setting a strategic vision for the organization allows your employees the autonomy to actually accomplish their work in a way that suits them and get the results you’re looking for.

Leaders can focus on fostering continuous feedback and really creating that environment for open communication, through engagement surveys, mobile apps, team meetings and implementing development programmes.

Engaging and Retaining Top Talent in a Multi-Generational Workforce

People are no longer attracted to companies for salary and benefits, people really want to work for organizations who consider their human needs and will set them up for success.

Leaders in organizations need to work on rethinking and rewriting positions for organizational agility, leveraging the internal team, not always specific to promotion.

The Best Way to Find Jen

Visit our website: www.differenceconsulting.com and schedule a complimentary discovery call, which is the first step in their process, to really take a look at how leaders can get started. It’s great way for Difference Consulting to find the next steps for leaders, who can further this by entering into the next phase of the process.

The next phase is to hold a more detailed Difference Consulting discovery conversation and schedule a strategy day.


How to Develop the Perfect Resume to Land Your Dream Role

How to Develop the Perfect Resume to Land Your Dream Role



When job seeking, your resume is the document that gets you through the door and in front of the hiring agent. But what goes into developing the perfect resume and what is it that makes you really stand out from the crowd in an oversaturated job market?

On today’s show, we are joined by Kris McGuigan, a top resume writer and careers advisor who is one of only 120 people worldwide to achieve the prestigious Academy of Certified Resume Writers Designation.

Kris’s passion is helping others to identify and unleash their potential. Figuring out the best way to market themselves and representing all of the value that individuals can bring to the marketplace.

Today she’ll be walking you through the steps of how you can ensure you have the best resume possible as you embark on your search for a new career.

On today’s podcast:

  • What needs to be on your resume?
  • Should you enlist the help of a professional resume writer?
  • How regularly should you update your resume?
  • Should you tailor your resume to specific job roles?
  • Three things the modern resume should have

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Should you enlist the help of a professional resume writer?

These days our resumes are so much more than a chronological listing of the jobs we have done. The modern resume is a marketing document that needs to sell you, the job seeker and make you stand out from the crowd.

Research shows that working with a professional writer can make you 40% more likely to get noticed by either a recruiter or hiring agent. Kris believes that a professional writer can help you to ensure that you not only have the most updated and relevant information on your resume but will guarantee that it meets with modern practices.

It will ultimately give you the best opportunity of getting past the gatekeeper and in front of your prospective employer.

How regularly should you update your resume?

“Dig your well before you’re thirsty.” is the mantra Kris adopts.

You want to make sure that you have an updated personal brand and that you’re ready for any unforeseen circumstances. Whether that’s a change in the market and you find yourself out of work, or there is a promotion you’re being considered for.

You don’t want to find yourself in a time driven situation in which you need to update a document you haven’t looked at for ten years.

Kris’s belief is that it much better serves your career to have an ongoing document that you can use, can be proud of and can properly reflect your current brand at any given time.

Should you tailor your resume to specific job roles?

Individuals should have a single resume and there are very few outlying circumstances, however, your resume should use position specific language.

Having individual resumes that are specifically tailored to each job for which you are applying has the potential to create a schizophrenic job search in place of a search that is clearly focussed.

It is important to have an idea of the direction you are trying to go in and then market yourself appropriately, incorporating position-specific language, and aligning it across your resume and your LinkedIn profile.

Changing your resume for every job you apply for can quickly become disorganized, confuse recruiters and cause you to rack your brains trying to remember which version you sent across to the person on the other end of the phone.

Three things the modern resume must have

Ensure your resume meets these criteria to give yourself the best chance for success.

  1. Position specific language

Nowadays your resume will pass through a series of different automated filters (Applicant Tracking Software Systems). These filters act as the gatekeeper to the hiring agent on the other side and are specifically looking for keywords, so you need to make sure you have incorporated the correct language that is relevant to your industry and position.

  1. Results oriented detail

Be sure to outline what you have accomplished and the things you have achieved that can add to the bottom line of the organization to which you are applying.

Your resume should be a snapshot of your greatest career accomplishments, rather than a laundry list of all of your job duties. Describe these achievements in a manner that makes it easy for potential employers to understand your return on investment.

  1. Eye-catching presentation

Your resume is a marketing tool and you need to use it as such. You have less than seven seconds to capture the interest of a recruiter. Good use of white space and a modern font can greatly increase your chances.

Kris’s final tip for modernizing your resume in less than 10 seconds? Stop using Times New Roman.


Shifting Your Mindset from Lack to Abundance for a Happier Life

Shifting Your Mindset from Lack to Abundance for a Happier Life



We’re joined by Christy Whitman. A bestselling author of The Art of Having it All, and an abundance coach.

Christy says abundance means all kind of energy, including love, time, opportunities, options, freedom, and money.

As human beings, we know more lack and limitation than abundance, and when anyone is feeling bad or a low-level emotion, it’s because they are in lack.

By working with the human-ness of the person, Christy helps people energetically and mindset-wise.

She helps to put in practical terms of what to do in your daily life to shift your energy from lack to abundance. Once you make this shift, things in your life will change.

On today’s podcast:

  • The guidance to abundance
  • Supporting people in becoming more abundant
  • Challenging our own beliefs
  • Living an unlimited life
  • The Art of Having it All
  • Christy’s coaching programme

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The guidance to abundance

When people look for a coach, it’s usually because something in their life isn’t working. It could be their love life or frustrations with health, which are just conditions and circumstances around what we experience.

Christy says these frustrations present as a condition, so she goes deeper to see why that person attracted and created it. They then take the lessons and are rebirthed into a new being.

Supporting people in becoming more abundant

As human beings, we are energy towers which send out signals all day every day. Our energetic connections with things determine whether we attract or repel it.

When you send out a different signal, it will be attracted to you. Look at your belief system and see if you are holding onto lack and limitation with conditioning.

Challenge where your life isn’t working and know that you don’t need to be victim to it.

Challenging our own beliefs

Any negative emotion we experience comes from lack. We don’t have to know the emotion we’re feeling, just know that lack is the root of it.

When Christy felt a negative emotion during a massage, she asked herself what the cause of it was. Part of her believed she’d used up all of her success, and she wasn’t even aware of it.

She gave that part of her reassurance and wrapped that part in abundance by thinking of something which made her feel joyful.

We deliberately choose the way we want to feel, and when we acknowledge and change that, things in our outer reality start to change.

Living an unlimited life

Finding the secret to success is inside you in the energy. It’s a continuous journey which you have to work on every day.

Christy says when she connects with the energy inside her, she brings the sense of joy into her life.

Feeling like you’re far from having it all is not knowing who you are and being attached to the physical world. These things appear real, but they’re not. They’re materialistic and can be changed by your consciousness.

The Art of Having it All

A lot of the time, we want to control everything and make things happen us. We think we’re running the universe.

People who like to have control want their world to feel safe, so want everything their way. This prevents the realm of the magical to come in and make things easier so it’s not so frightening.

Christy’s coaching programme

In 2008, Christy was a coach and was doing well. Within the space of a week, she had four different people ask her to certify them but it wasn’t something she offered.

She took it as a sign and put pen to paper on what the programme would look like. She has been certifying coaches ever since. The Quantum Success Learning Academy is a place where you get to learn about energy and the universe laws, shift and heal, and prepare to help someone else.


The Six Keys to Success with Karl Mecklenburg

The Six Keys to Success with Karl Mecklenburg



On today’s podcast, we’re joined by former professional athlete Karl Mecklenburg about the six keys to success.

When we walk about leadership, the challenges everyone faces are universal. Karl has spoken to many organizations, and he sees similar challenges in all of them.

His six keys to success are teamwork, courage, dedication, desire, honesty and forgiveness, and goal setting. Here he breaks down each key and tells us how to apply it to the challenges you face in your life and business.

On today’s podcast:

  • Teamwork with leadership
  • Courage with decisiveness
  • Dedication with constant learning
  • Desire to keep moving towards your goal
  • Honesty and forgiveness
  • Goal setting

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Teamwork with leadership

You have to understand what the team goals are, and what that overriding passion is. These goals have to be clear and consistent, and they have to be a cornerstone of the organization for everyone involved.

Those goals need to be understood by everybody and talked about by leadership constantly. Create teamwork by saying the goals are bigger than one person.

When someone doesn’t show teamwork and doesn’t buy into the team, it is the main reason for letting them go. If someone is gifted but isn’t involved, they will help in the short-term but will be damaging in the long-term. Enforce what is important.

Courage with decisiveness

Having the courage to try new things and to be decisive is key. Be prepared, always anticipate what’s coming, and take a step before anyone else does.

You have to trust yourself to be decisive and have the courage to try new things and step outside of your comfort zone as it keeps you up with change.

Things never go right at first, but you need to have the courage to keep trying. Don’t give up or quit if something is important to you. People fail, that’s what being a human being is, but you have to believe in yourself.

Dedication with constant learning

Karl says that anywhere he can find a new input to continue his learning, he tries to do it. If you can take one thing away from every piece of learning you try, it’ll make you better and this is vital for keeping up with change.

Have extravagant long-term goals for every part of your life, and think about how you can apply those to the challenges you face. Big dreams mean you will run into obstacles, but success is overcoming those.

Desire to keep moving towards your goal

If you know where your desire is, you can start working towards it. Have a boiled down message in ten words or less of where you want to be and what’s important to you.

When you have to make a decision, you can refer to your message and make the right choice. Keeping the desire burning is what will get you over the hump when you feel like quitting.

Honesty and forgiveness

As a human being, you will have the tendency to think “that’s not my fault” when something goes wrong.

Karl talks about the honesty from the NFL and how it’s missing in the business world. If you can build a culture where people are able to say they were wrong, everything will work better.

Forgiveness starts with yourself, as you need to be able to forgive yourself for mistakes before you can forgive someone else. If you’re a leader, you should know the strengths and weaknesses of your team. Don’t put someone in a situation where they’re going to fail.

Goal setting

When you have goals set for your business, it will drive your desire and your honesty and forgiveness.

Karl says that one person can make a huge difference in a business if they step out of the middle group and become a leader. Give people opportunities, and connect with them to be successful.


How to Set Goals Which You Make a Reality with Paul Cummings

How to Set Goals Which You Make Reality with Paul Cummings



On today’s podcast, we are joined by Paul Cummings where we discuss his new book It All Matters: 125 Strategies to Achieve Maximum Confidence, Clarity, Certainty, and Creativity.

This book took a decade to write, and stemmed from something which his grandfather told him. “When you decide what you really want, then and only then do you know that it all matters”.

Things that are important to you are defined by what you want out of your journey to reaching your goals, and this book is all about maximising your journey to achieve what you want.

On today’s podcast:

  • The magic number – 86,400
  • Making a difference in people’s lives
  • The determination you need to make your goals a reality
  • The power of optimism
  • It All Matters: 125 Strategies to Achieve Maximum Confidence, Clarity, Certainty, and Creativity
  • Self-awareness and self-reflection

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The magic number – 86,400

A friend once told Paul that 86,400 is how many seconds are in a day, and Paul says that once you manage your minutes then your life becomes magical.

If you have an idea which you’ve been thinking about, and you sat down for 15 minutes to really consider it and write things down, that could be the catalyst for a real positive change.

When you sit down and focus yourself to say “today is a new day”, it can truly give you a new beginning. It’s never too late to become the person you want to be, and that 86,400 renewal every day is a very uplifting and inspiring opportunity.

Making a difference in people’s lives

Paul says that goal-directed people operate with a uniquely different perspective, and he works on getting people to understand the power of goal setting and understanding the formula.

You need to understand the premise of goal setting as a real thing, write them down with a start and end date, and it’ll get you out of the “I should” business. Having a goal defined makes you live by “I will”.

The determination you need to make your goals a reality

When goals are deeply ingrained into a person and have become real, they inform every choice which is made. They define what you say no to, which is more important than what you say yes to.

Paul says that small steps are monumental, as people often get discouraged when goals are upsized so much we can no longer see them. You have to make sure goals really mean something to you, not to someone else.

The power of optimism

Paul says there are four things which he makes everyone he works with believe: you’re remarkable, you’re extraordinary, you’re someone special, you’re one of a kind.

You need to have certainty about the ability to you have, activate your awareness, be genuine, and be authentic.

If you ask better questions, you can put your negative voice to sleep. You have the capacity to do anything, it’s a fact and is the truth.

It All Matters: 125 Strategies to Achieve Maximum Confidence, Clarity, Certainty, and Creativity

When Paul was 19, he started journalling. Every day he would write down what he learned, what he gave, and what the lesson of the day was. He has done this for 41 years, and this is where the 125 strategies in his book have come from.

He says that when you get knocked down, that’s when you learn about yourself. Life happens to all of us, and every loss is a lesson.

Self-awareness and self-reflection

When talking about self-awareness and self-reflection, Paul says he’s not sure we do enough of it. Have the courage to reflect and be candidly honest with yourself about the areas where you need to get better.

Be the president of your own fan club, but in a genuine way and not an egotistical way. Taking 15 minutes in the morning to think about what you want to do and what you’ve done is a powerful tool.


Developing Routines to Action Your Priorities and Accept Realistic Expectations with Elizabeth Saunders

Developing Routines to Action Your Priorities and Accept Realistic Expectations



On today’s podcast, we are joined again by our resident expert in time management Elizabeth Grace Saunders.

We’ve been thinking about how to invest our time, and in the third installment, we discuss how to apply our previous topics, action-based priorities and setting realistic expectations, in practical ways.

Our priorities are things which are important to us, or things we value. We can action these by putting the time in our calendar for them to create a routine. When we think about having realistic expectations, it is making sure we’re living in the limited time we have.

On today’s podcast:

  • Routines and acceptance of realistic expectations
  • Identifying when you need more routines
  • Valuable routines to help you be successful
  • How do routines help?
  • Best tips for developing a routine
  • When you can’t stick to a routine
  • Divine Time Management: The Joy of Trusting God’s Loving Plans for You

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Routines and acceptance of realistic expectations

When we’re being our best self and thinking in a righteous way, we are aware of our values and priorities, and of what’s important.

If we’re honest, most of the time we’re not necessarily in the mindset of “what does my best self-want to do?” as we get bogged down with other things, so our best self isn’t actively present in our mindset.

When we set routines in our best self-state which supports what we want to do, we can make progress to act in accordance with our best self at all times. By setting a routine and adding it to our calendar, that priority becomes a recurring event in our calendar which puts accountability in place.

Elizabeth says that routine comes naturally for some people, but building routines are something everyone can improve on. We can all improve our ability to create a routine with consistent and persistent practice.

Identifying when you need more routines

If you’re living your dream life and everything you want to get done is happening, you probably don’t need routines.

But, if you think there’s more you want to get done or you find things stressful as you’re missing things out or completing things at the last minute, you probably need routines to make things a lot easier.

Valuable routines to help you be successful

Elizabeth says that self-care is essential, and everyone should have a bedtime routine and set times when they’re going to eat and exercise.

She has also found that everyone can benefit from planning a weekly or daily routine to think ahead about what you’re focusing on for the day or the week. This is essential if you have something in your life which you believe to be a priority but you’re not moving ahead with it.

Set time aside for your priorities, find a consistent way to put it into your calendar to move it forward, and commit to it.

How do routines help?

Routines help because they reduce the decision-making process. If you have an action for a priority in the calendar, you don’t need to think about how or when you’re going to do it.

You can also reduce resistance to spending time on your priorities if it’s scheduled, as it’s already clear what’s happening. When you follow a routine, time will naturally be aligned with your priorities.

Best tips for developing a routine

When developing a routine, start small. Only begin with one or two new routines you want in your life and put it in your calendar. Practice it for two or three weeks, and observe what does and doesn’t work.

After you have assessed what works, you can keep adapting and adjusting until you get something which sticks.

Elizabeth says people often try to create ten routines at once or try to train for a marathon before they’ve started exercising, which leads to frustration and quitting. Consistent practice is essential, get a coach in the form of a friend or coworker, and track your progress.

When you can’t stick to a routine

The minimum length of Elizabeth’s time management programme is three months because it’s natural for things to happen and for your routine to start slipping.

When you do go off-track, accept what’s happened, realize that you couldn’t control the situation, ask what you can learn, and think about how you can get back on track as quickly as possible.

If you go off-track for a day or a week, reflect on what happened and start again. Life is going to happen, so understand it, get over it, and get back to the routine.

Divine Time Management: The Joy of Trusting God’s Loving Plans for You

Elizabeth’s new book is about the journey to recognizing that there are things we can do to improve our lives to help us be successful.

She wrote it because she felt like she wasn’t telling the whole truth, as there were times in her own life where her time management skills weren’t enough. Elizabeth admits to misestimating or feeling overwhelmed, and shares that it is prayer which carries her through.

This book is to help people realize they don’t have to be on 24/7. Be at peace with what’s happening in your life, and accept and embrace who you really are.


Breakdown or Breakthrough? Jen Welter on the Pressure of Being the First Female NFL Coach

Breakdown or Breakthrough? Jen Welter on the Pressure of Being the First Female NFL Coach



On today’s podcast, we are joined by Jen Welter the first woman to coach in the NFL. She set the example for others to follow, as being the first meant she had no one to aspire to.

Jen tells us about women playing football, and how they do it for the love of the game. The first cheque she ever got for being a professional football player was when they won the Superbowl, and that cheque was for $12.

Her experiences translate into the game of life. If you have a passion, you shouldn’t see any door as being closed because of a perceived difference such as gender. Every opportunity she’s had to step up has been driven by those women in her team who inspire her and give fuel for her fire every day.

On today’s podcast:

  • Making the transition from playing football to working for the NFL
  • Setting the standards for others to follow
  • Lessons in Being Limitless
  • Could you walk a mile in these shoes?

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Making the transition from playing football to working for the NFL

Jen wanted to take her practical experience of playing football and use her psychology background to provide a unique perspective to help athletes on their journey to greatness.

She says the NFL was larger than life and she never imagined she would coach, as she had no women to look up to so didn’t see it as a possibility.

She ended up coaching after playing men’s football for a season, which taught her to be a great teammate when she wasn’t a star as she was on the practice squad. Jen caught the attention of a coach when he was impressed by the dynamic of how close she and her team were, and he offered her a position as a coach.

Initially, Jen said no. She wasn’t prepared. But, he wouldn’t let her not do it so he took the job on her behalf and told her she couldn’t quit.

Setting the standards for others to follow

Jen had no one to aspire to, as she was the first female coach in the NFL, and she thought it was important to show that it could work for any other women who wanted to step into that role.

Brian Arians talked to players about bringing her in, and when they agreed he worked up to the top to tell them everyone was on board with having a female coach. By doing this, he put his reputation as a leader on the line, and the way he did it set the tone of it being a good thing and not a publicity stunt.

When Jen joined, she didn’t force the players to listen to her as they had chosen to. They knew she had something to add, and she was brought in because everyone believed it would work.

Lessons in Being Limitless

Jen has documented her journey to being the first female coach in her book Play Big: Lessons in Being Limitless from the First Woman to Coach in the NFL. Women playing football had been described as the “best-kept secret in sports”, but she didn’t want them to be a secret anymore.

She saw the book as a great opportunity to tell a story, and not a football story but a life story. There are many parts in the book which could be for anybody working hard for a dream.

Jen promised to stand up to any challenge presented to her throughout her career, which made her willing to make small steps forward towards bigger accomplishments.

Could you walk a mile in these shoes?

In her book, Jen wants people to find things which can be translated into their own lives. Can you have a great impact and be a good teammate, even when you’re the underdog?

She hopes for people to realize there’s a point in everyone’s lives where it’s either breakdown or breakthrough. Breakthrough comes when 99.9% of people would break down, and all you need is one more ounce of faith that will pull you through to find success.