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Don’t Sacrifice Your Career for Your Job



Are you aware of the habits that are limiting your career advancement? If you want to have more influence and more power, it’s time to put an end to certain patterns of thinking. To help you achieve that, I’ve invited someone I truly admire: author and executive coach Marshall Goldsmith.

On today’s podcast:

  • The profile of the leader of the future
  • Don’t always add value and listen to your people
  • Don’t sacrifice your career for your job
  • Become aware of what is limiting your career and start making changes

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The profile of the leader of the future

The leader of the future has to have four attributes, according to Marshall:

  1. The ability to think globally and being able to manage people in a global setting.
  2. Cross-cultural appreciation. Diversity is not just about dealing with minorities in the US, but also about dealing with different cultures all around the world.
  3. Being tech-savvy. We can no longer hide from technology.
  4. Being able to build alliances and partnerships. Nowadays leadership is much more across, instead of being top-down.
  5. Shared leadership. In the past, leaders assumed they knew more than the people they led. Today the leader is no longer superior. Leaders of the future have to quit being the smartest person in the room.

Don’t always add value and listen to your people

In his job as an executive coach Marshall gives people a lot of feedback. His clients pick the areas in which they need to make the most changes, and he helps them with that.

He says that managers have a constant tendency of giving too much value. It’s very hard for smart, successful people not to constantly add value. Your suggestions as an executive become orders and you can end up diminishing the ideas of your employees.

Before you speak, breathe, and ask yourself, “Is it worth it? If I am not the expert on this topic, why am I speaking? Anything I say will probably end up doing more harm than good.”

Don’t sacrifice your career for your job

Marshall’s latest book, “How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job”, is a collaboration with Sally Helgesen. The idea was to create a book for any woman who is ready to advance to the next level.

One of the brilliant concepts in the book is sacrificing your career for your job. Women are much more likely to do this than men. They can get so wrapped up in doing a great job, that they don’t really invest in their career. They tend to have this naive assumption that if they do a good job, it should be the best thing to advance their career.

What you should be doing is always looking at that next job. If you’re not careful, you can become indispensable. Then you’re really stuck. Indispensable means, “We can’t get rid of her, she’s adding too much value.”

Become aware of what is limiting your career and start making changes

Women are much better than men at giving credit to others and saying we instead of I. This is generally a good thing. The only problem is that sometimes you need to get promoted.

If you want to make a bigger, more positive difference in the world, you need to have more power. You can’t influence people with no power.

If you want more power, you need to be aware of the things that stop your career. If you think, “I love my team so much, I’m ashamed to be promoted”, you ultimately limit your career and the influence you can have in the world.

We hold on to mental models too much. If we say, “That’s the way I am” with no intention of changing anything, then we will always get what we always got. We always have a choice. If we want more power and more authority, we need to change this way of thinking.


From Being an Expert to Becoming an Authority



We are all stuck with each other on this planet, so we might as well learn from each other and be willing to share our expertise. A firm believer in the power of mentorship is my guest and good friend, Simone Vincenzi. Join us as we explore the unlimited possibilities of what a good coach has to offer.

On today’s podcast:

  • Focusing on a good work-life balance
  • The difference between “rubber” and “glass” activities
  • The best ideas come to you in the most unexpected moments
  • Differences between American and European leadership development styles
  • Simone’s principles
  • Simone’s podcast and classes

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Focusing on a good work-life balance

Simone is motivated by serving his clients. He is helping experts become authorities in their fields, and this is what makes him happy.

He doesn’t want to work all the time. His solution to a good work-life balance is focusing on work when he is working, and focusing on relaxing when he is on holidays. Simone also makes sure he carves out pockets of time for his wife.

The difference between “rubber” and “glass” activities

After reading “The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results”, Simone understood the importance of scheduling and prioritizing.

The book talks about different ways of scheduling your time and finding out what’s really important to you. It classifies activities as being “rubber” or “glass”.

Rubber activities can be postponed, they are not made of glass. Glass activities can break, and relationships and family belong to this category.

The best ideas come to you in the most unexpected moments

Entrepreneurs often feel that they never have enough success. Simone has also fought with this feeling for a long time, and he needs to constantly remind himself that he has enough success.

When you’re very passionate about what you do, opportunities open up everywhere. You feel like you don’t want to miss out on anything.

Sometimes you just have to stop for a moment and feel good about your work. We come up with the best ideas when we don’t actively think about solutions.

Differences between American and European leadership development styles

Simone noticed massive differences in leadership development between the US and Europe. In the US, people tend to be go-getters. In Europe, they are more relaxed, sometimes too relaxed.

He moved from Italy to London, because he finds London much more similar in terms of mentality to the US. In Italy, people love complaining, without really seeking a solution to their problems.

In the US, there is an active approach when it comes to leadership development. In Europe, the approach is more reactive. However, the trend seems to be changing nowadays.

Simone’s principles

Simone believes in a few fundamental principles:

  • If you don’t grow, you die.
  • We are in this together. Unfortunately nowadays we are getting more and more isolated. With technology, we have the false feeling that we are more connected, while in reality we are more and more disconnected. Together we can achieve greater things.

Simone’s podcast and classes

On his podcast, Explode Your Expert Biz Show, he interviews leaders and experts and asks them for tips and strategies on how to grow a business, particularly one based on personal brand. The show is full of practical, implementable steps.

If you want to learn more, you can also take one of Simone’s courses. You can find the list here