In this episode of the show Coach, Speaker and Author Jeanie Cisco-Meth joins as a guest. When Jeanie was a young girl, everyone knew she was different. When she got into school, the labeling began. She had so many learning disabilities and physical differences she stood out. She had dyslexia, she couldn’t talk very well, she was legally blind, by the eighth grade she was six feet tall, she was a cancer survivor, and the list goes on. Jeanie has made the it her crusade to stop bullying, not only working in the corporate world, but taking her message right into the schools. Jeanie disses why people bully, how to confront bullies, and she share some insight from her two books.
One from the archives – This show was originally posted on June 19th 2018
Are you aware of the habits that are limiting your career advancement? If you want to have more influence and more power, it’s time to put an end to certain patterns of thinking. To help you achieve that, I’ve invited someone I truly admire: author and executive coach Marshall Goldsmith.
On today’s podcast:
- The profile of the leader of the future
- Don’t always add value and listen to your people
- Don’t sacrifice your career for your job
- Become aware of what is limiting your career and start making changes
The profile of the leader of the future
The leader of the future has to have four attributes, according to Marshall:
- The ability to think globally and being able to manage people in a global setting.
- Cross-cultural appreciation. Diversity is not just about dealing with minorities in the US, but also about dealing with different cultures all around the world.
- Being tech-savvy. We can no longer hide from technology.
- Being able to build alliances and partnerships. Nowadays leadership is much more across, instead of being top-down.
- Shared leadership. In the past, leaders assumed they knew more than the people they led. Today the leader is no longer superior. Leaders of the future have to quit being the smartest person in the room.
Don’t always add value and listen to your people
In his job as an executive coach Marshall gives people a lot of feedback. His clients pick the areas in which they need to make the most changes, and he helps them with that.
He says that managers have a constant tendency of giving too much value. It’s very hard for smart, successful people not to constantly add value. Your suggestions as an executive become orders and you can end up diminishing the ideas of your employees.
Before you speak, breathe, and ask yourself, “Is it worth it? If I am not the expert on this topic, why am I speaking? Anything I say will probably end up doing more harm than good.”
Don’t sacrifice your career for your job
Marshall’s latest book, “How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job”, is a collaboration with Sally Helgesen. The idea was to create a book for any woman who is ready to advance to the next level.
One of the brilliant concepts in the book is sacrificing your career for your job. Women are much more likely to do this than men. They can get so wrapped up in doing a great job, that they don’t really invest in their career. They tend to have this naive assumption that if they do a good job, it should be the best thing to advance their career.
What you should be doing is always looking at that next job. If you’re not careful, you can become indispensable. Then you’re really stuck. Indispensable means, “We can’t get rid of her, she’s adding too much value.”
Become aware of what is limiting your career and start making changes
Women are much better than men at giving credit to others and saying we instead of I. This is generally a good thing. The only problem is that sometimes you need to get promoted.
If you want to make a bigger, more positive difference in the world, you need to have more power. You can’t influence people with no power.
If you want more power, you need to be aware of the things that stop your career. If you think, “I love my team so much, I’m ashamed to be promoted”, you ultimately limit your career and the influence you can have in the world.
We hold on to mental models too much. If we say, “That’s the way I am” with no intention of changing anything, then we will always get what we always got. We always have a choice. If we want more power and more authority, we need to change this way of thinking.
In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Podcast, Chris is joined by Executive Coach and Podcast Host Tom Henschel. Tom discusses the four elements leaders need to have to ensure they are ready to enter into a coaching relationship. The four elements are:
- Curiosity – Outlining if there is a natural shift from being a leader to being a learner
- Self-Reflection – How important is it for the leader to develop a habit of looking at themselves?
- Self-Responsibility – This is where the leader needs to be responsible for their own accountability
- Resilience – Tom lays out the need for the being resilienant and the importance to achieve your Ultimate Success.
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In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Chris Cebollero is joined by Speaker, Author and Coach Bo Brabo. Bo stops by to share his leadership expertise regarding the importance of After Action Reviews and how they are essential for the growth of a team, and organization. He discusses how best to cultivate a value based organization and the keys to use those values to inspire and motivate the workforce. Bo shares his thoughts about his book From the Battlefield, to the White House, to the Boardroom. Bo had the opportunity to work at the White House during President Bush and President Obamas administration. What was the biggest lesson Bo took from that experience? Join the discussion to find out.
In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Podcast Behavioral Psychologist Denise Dudley returns for Part II of her discussion of Recognizing and Dealing with Stress During Pandemic. In Part II Denise outlines the tools you will need to help you manage stress. She outlines how stress works against the immune system, and why self care is important. Denise gives you tips on the importance of working with your breathing and using relaxation techniques or mediation to relax. She finishes up the discussion with how to stop negative self talk that adds to your stress.
Regardless of your position or where you are in your career, you are always looking for the next big thing, or attining the next level. So, what are employers looking for in you to take that next step? It all boils down to 3 things. We are honored to be joined by Executive Coach, and Speaker Ed DeCosta. Ed shares his expertise in how to prepare yourself for the next level. Ed will outline the importance of developing, wisdom, judgement, and character. This was a great discussion with an amazing leader. Join the discussion.
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Chris is joined by Robin Blanchard, author, speaker, and executive coach. The discussion focuses on Servant Leadership, the importance becoming a Servant Leader, and common misconceptions of this leadership style. Robin also overviews the topic of Situational Self Leadership. What is Situational Self Leadership? Hit play and join the discussion.
I’m so excited to have Danny Creed and Craig Marshall back on the show. Join us for a fascinating conversation about how to achieve success without sacrificing your personal wellbeing.
On today’s podcast:
- Ditch time management, it’s all about priority management now
- Happiness vs joy
- Allowing our higher selves to guide us more
- Taking baby steps
Ditch time management, it’s all about priority management now
One of the things Danny and Craig are on a mission to do is to show people how to be successful, and at the same how to nurture their souls.
Everyone is looking for the right work-life balance. We have to learn how to mix business and life together so that we can achieve the best results.
You shouldn’t be looking into time management, it’s all about priority management. We have to understand what has the highest priority for us based on the consequences.
Happiness vs joy
German writer Goethe once said, “Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least.” When you can control what you’re doing, your stress level also goes down.
There is no happy ending to an unhappy journey. Many people feel like they need to struggle and climb ladders. There is no need to suffer.
There is a distinction between the words “happiness” and “joy”. Happiness has a cause. It’s based upon some sort of external condition of achievement. Joy is very different. It’s a perky, fun state of consciousness. Joy is about enjoying every step in your journey.
Allowing our higher selves to guide us more
Craig realized that he is the one creating his own reality. He decided to take total personal responsibility.
As a monk, he also learned that he has a higher and a lower self. The higher self is intuitive, creative, joyous. The lower self, the little ego, is fearful, it sometimes shuts down, and has a lot of old school beliefs.
The third thing he learned is that whatever he chooses to put his attention on to, it’s going to increase. If he puts his mind on success and the specifics of achieving it, that’s going to grow.
The fourth thing he has learned is that mindfulness practices are actually tools to tap into his inner guidance from his higher self.
Taking baby steps
If we can improve the quality and the clarity of our thinking by one-tenth of one percent a day, in time we will experience massive personal growth.
Success happens by getting small wins, by changing small habits.
Sometimes it’s good to analyze what our mind. Find a way to get some positive reinforcement, to retrain the way we think, to stop allowing our negative thoughts to take over.
On today’s podcast:
- What is rapid transformational therapy?
- How to become the best version of yourself
- Training our subconscious
- A new, innovative program to rewire your brain
- Overcoming physical and emotional issues
What is rapid transformational therapy?
Michele has been an executive coach for many years now, and during all this time she became a bit of a learning junkie. She’s always curious to find new, interesting ways to become a better person and a better coach.
She discovered the work of Marisa Peer a few years ago. She started working with her, and was very impressed by the results.
She decided to become certified as an advanced practitioner of rapid transformational therapy. Rapid transformational therapy is a unique combination of traditional hypnotherapy, neuro-linguistic programming, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
How to become the best version of yourself
During a two-hour session over Zoom, Michele is able to find out more about her clients: where their feelings got stuck and what got them blocked.
It’s all about how to become the best version of yourself. Michele tries to help her clients figure out what they ultimately want.
There are three parts in an RTT session:
- Discover – Michele learns more about her clients
- Rewire – she drops them into a very relaxed state of hypnosis
- Transform – she asks their subconscious what is the root cause of these blocks and then creates a monologue with their subconscious and instills the new empowering beliefs into their brains
Training our subconscious
Our subconscious remembers everything that’s ever happened to us. Everything is stored on our hard drives.
Once we’re able to understand the root causes of our problems, we can let them go. And let them go is the most powerful thing we can do.
Your brain loves repetition. The more you think a thought, the truer it becomes for you.
A new, innovative program to rewire your brain
Michele created a really unique process that combines RTT with coaching: the 30-Day Rapid Rewiring Breakthrough Program.
Ultimately, it’s like doing a brain detox. Your brain has been operating in a certain way, and now you’re telling it to operate in a different way. There is going to be some resistance.
Overcoming physical and emotional issues
Your confidence can be taken out in a lot of different ways. Sometimes it can get chipped away little by little. Sometimes you can get the imposter syndrome.
In the book she co-authored, “Breakthrough Healing”, readers can find ways to help them overcome their physical and emotional issues.
It can be tough in the midst of everything to make sure that you stick to a vision of what’s really important. Find out how to deal with fear and doubt and focus on your goals in this episode.
- Recognize fear and doubt and act on it
- Finding something relaxing
On today’s podcast:
- How do you deal with fear and doubt?
- How to handle failure
- Maintaining focus on your goals
- Getting a personal board of directors
How can you stop fear and doubt from paralyzing you?
We learn anxiety. Little kids think they can do everything; they’re fearless. Ask any parent with a 2-year-old and they’ll tell you, their little guy/girl is the most overconfident creature they’ve ever met.
Once we grow up and become professionals, we make up all these stories about all these awful things that could happen to us. We have to respond by recognizing when we’re making up a story that doesn’t match reality.
How to deal with failure
Michael Jordan, of all people, encountered major setbacks in his professional sports career. He pushed through though, working on his skills and coming out stronger as a result.
If life’s setbacks are really getting to you, see if you can carve out some time to decompress and relax. Pick up a good book, practice a musical instrument, or try another activity to change your mindset.
How to keep pushing towards our dreams
Steve keeps things simple. While 1-year plans are really popular, he prefers to focus in on a 90-day strategy for goal achievement. This lets him focus on simple, positive, daily habits that help him increment his way to success.
It also helps you realize when you may be barking up the wrong tree before you commit 9 extra months that you wish you hadn’t.
Great companies are made through great teams. The same strategy can work for your personal achievement.
Find 2-to-3 people in your life who you can check-in with regularly. Give each other feedback on how everyone is doing. It’s like having a personal board of directors, keeping your ship on course!