In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Podcast Behavioral Psychologist Denise Dudley returns for Part II of her discussion of Recognizing and Dealing with Stress During Pandemic. In Part II Denise outlines the tools you will need to help you manage stress. She outlines how stress works against the immune system, and why self care is important. Denise gives you tips on the importance of working with your breathing and using relaxation techniques or mediation to relax. She finishes up the discussion with how to stop negative self talk that adds to your stress.
Regardless of your position or where you are in your career, you are always looking for the next big thing, or attining the next level. So, what are employers looking for in you to take that next step? It all boils down to 3 things. We are honored to be joined by Executive Coach, and Speaker Ed DeCosta. Ed shares his expertise in how to prepare yourself for the next level. Ed will outline the importance of developing, wisdom, judgement, and character. This was a great discussion with an amazing leader. Join the discussion.
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Chris is joined by Robin Blanchard, author, speaker, and executive coach. The discussion focuses on Servant Leadership, the importance becoming a Servant Leader, and common misconceptions of this leadership style. Robin also overviews the topic of Situational Self Leadership. What is Situational Self Leadership? Hit play and join the discussion.
I’m so excited to have Danny Creed and Craig Marshall back on the show. Join us for a fascinating conversation about how to achieve success without sacrificing your personal wellbeing.
On today’s podcast:
- Ditch time management, it’s all about priority management now
- Happiness vs joy
- Allowing our higher selves to guide us more
- Taking baby steps
Ditch time management, it’s all about priority management now
One of the things Danny and Craig are on a mission to do is to show people how to be successful, and at the same how to nurture their souls.
Everyone is looking for the right work-life balance. We have to learn how to mix business and life together so that we can achieve the best results.
You shouldn’t be looking into time management, it’s all about priority management. We have to understand what has the highest priority for us based on the consequences.
Happiness vs joy
German writer Goethe once said, “Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least.” When you can control what you’re doing, your stress level also goes down.
There is no happy ending to an unhappy journey. Many people feel like they need to struggle and climb ladders. There is no need to suffer.
There is a distinction between the words “happiness” and “joy”. Happiness has a cause. It’s based upon some sort of external condition of achievement. Joy is very different. It’s a perky, fun state of consciousness. Joy is about enjoying every step in your journey.
Allowing our higher selves to guide us more
Craig realized that he is the one creating his own reality. He decided to take total personal responsibility.
As a monk, he also learned that he has a higher and a lower self. The higher self is intuitive, creative, joyous. The lower self, the little ego, is fearful, it sometimes shuts down, and has a lot of old school beliefs.
The third thing he learned is that whatever he chooses to put his attention on to, it’s going to increase. If he puts his mind on success and the specifics of achieving it, that’s going to grow.
The fourth thing he has learned is that mindfulness practices are actually tools to tap into his inner guidance from his higher self.
Taking baby steps
If we can improve the quality and the clarity of our thinking by one-tenth of one percent a day, in time we will experience massive personal growth.
Success happens by getting small wins, by changing small habits.
Sometimes it’s good to analyze what our mind. Find a way to get some positive reinforcement, to retrain the way we think, to stop allowing our negative thoughts to take over.
On today’s podcast:
- What is rapid transformational therapy?
- How to become the best version of yourself
- Training our subconscious
- A new, innovative program to rewire your brain
- Overcoming physical and emotional issues
What is rapid transformational therapy?
Michele has been an executive coach for many years now, and during all this time she became a bit of a learning junkie. She’s always curious to find new, interesting ways to become a better person and a better coach.
She discovered the work of Marisa Peer a few years ago. She started working with her, and was very impressed by the results.
She decided to become certified as an advanced practitioner of rapid transformational therapy. Rapid transformational therapy is a unique combination of traditional hypnotherapy, neuro-linguistic programming, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
How to become the best version of yourself
During a two-hour session over Zoom, Michele is able to find out more about her clients: where their feelings got stuck and what got them blocked.
It’s all about how to become the best version of yourself. Michele tries to help her clients figure out what they ultimately want.
There are three parts in an RTT session:
- Discover – Michele learns more about her clients
- Rewire – she drops them into a very relaxed state of hypnosis
- Transform – she asks their subconscious what is the root cause of these blocks and then creates a monologue with their subconscious and instills the new empowering beliefs into their brains
Training our subconscious
Our subconscious remembers everything that’s ever happened to us. Everything is stored on our hard drives.
Once we’re able to understand the root causes of our problems, we can let them go. And let them go is the most powerful thing we can do.
Your brain loves repetition. The more you think a thought, the truer it becomes for you.
A new, innovative program to rewire your brain
Michele created a really unique process that combines RTT with coaching: the 30-Day Rapid Rewiring Breakthrough Program.
Ultimately, it’s like doing a brain detox. Your brain has been operating in a certain way, and now you’re telling it to operate in a different way. There is going to be some resistance.
Overcoming physical and emotional issues
Your confidence can be taken out in a lot of different ways. Sometimes it can get chipped away little by little. Sometimes you can get the imposter syndrome.
In the book she co-authored, “Breakthrough Healing”, readers can find ways to help them overcome their physical and emotional issues.
It can be tough in the midst of everything to make sure that you stick to a vision of what’s really important. Find out how to deal with fear and doubt and focus on your goals in this episode.
- Recognize fear and doubt and act on it
- Finding something relaxing
On today’s podcast:
- How do you deal with fear and doubt?
- How to handle failure
- Maintaining focus on your goals
- Getting a personal board of directors
How can you stop fear and doubt from paralyzing you?
We learn anxiety. Little kids think they can do everything; they’re fearless. Ask any parent with a 2-year-old and they’ll tell you, their little guy/girl is the most overconfident creature they’ve ever met.
Once we grow up and become professionals, we make up all these stories about all these awful things that could happen to us. We have to respond by recognizing when we’re making up a story that doesn’t match reality.
How to deal with failure
Michael Jordan, of all people, encountered major setbacks in his professional sports career. He pushed through though, working on his skills and coming out stronger as a result.
If life’s setbacks are really getting to you, see if you can carve out some time to decompress and relax. Pick up a good book, practice a musical instrument, or try another activity to change your mindset.
How to keep pushing towards our dreams
Steve keeps things simple. While 1-year plans are really popular, he prefers to focus in on a 90-day strategy for goal achievement. This lets him focus on simple, positive, daily habits that help him increment his way to success.
It also helps you realize when you may be barking up the wrong tree before you commit 9 extra months that you wish you hadn’t.
Great companies are made through great teams. The same strategy can work for your personal achievement.
Find 2-to-3 people in your life who you can check-in with regularly. Give each other feedback on how everyone is doing. It’s like having a personal board of directors, keeping your ship on course!
One of the most important skills we need to learn as leaders is how to balance things effectively. This week I have the perfect guest to help us with that: keynote speaker and author Rocky Romanella.
On today’s podcast:
- We’re all leaders
- What is balanced leadership?
- What are you trying to accomplish?
- We need to think about our legacy
We’re all leaders
Rocky believes that we’re all leaders. Sometimes we can get caught up in titles, but at the end of the day we’re all leaders at one time or another.
For him, leadership is leaving things a little better than you’ve found them. Are people better after they’ve interacted with you? Then you’re a leader.
What is balanced leadership?
Rocky noticed that great leaders always keep things in balance. Extremes are generally no good on either side. So how do you find this balance?
When you swing one way too far as a company or a leader, you get out of balance. Rocky began to develop the concept of balanced leadership.
Every time you need to make a decision, challenge yourself with three questions:
- Am I thinking like a customer?
- Will my people understand the role that they play and why we’re doing what we’re doing?
- Am I acting like an owner?
What are you trying to accomplish?
Ask yourself “What is it that I’m trying to accomplish? What are the things that are important to me?”
Each one of us show take inventory of three key things:
- Who am I?
- What do I stand for?
- What won’t I compromise?
Great leaders understand how to accept and handle bad news, they know when to apologize and when to move forward.
We need to think about our legacy
As a leader, you have to believe in your people many times until they’re ready to believe in themselves.
For Rocky, leadership is ultimately about legacy. Things are better because of you and people will remember you for the good things you’ve left behind.
My guest today is author and coach Denise Dudley, here to share with us her expertise on the art of active listening. It’s important that we all become aware of the fact that by fully listening to what someone has to say we honor that person. Active listening sounds like a tough job, but once we commit to it, we will almost instantly improve our relationships on a noticeable scale.
On today’s podcast:
- Always watch for cues to make sure your listeners are still there
- Commit to actively listen
- Listen without formulating a response in your head
- Paraphrase more
Always watch for cues to make sure your listeners are still there
Listening seems to us like a very passive activity. Research has shown that when you’re truly listening, many parts of your brain lighten up. There is a lot going on, but physically it feels like we’re just sitting there.
Part of your job as a speaker is to always be listening and watching for feedback in your listener(s). Watch for cues to make sure your listeners are still with you and they haven’t become bored.
Sometimes it’s important to sit still when we’re listening so that we can send the message of “I’m with you, I’m not thinking about anything else.”
Commit to actively listen
If you are going to really listen to someone, go to a quieter, neutral room. Make sure you also avoid distractions.
We try to have our most important conversations in person, because we get to have these visual cues.
The first step in any journey towards becoming better at whatever it is you’re interested in is to actually make a commitment.
Listen without formulating a response in your head
Sometimes people may have different views. It’s hard to suspend your immediate judgment, but it’s really important to do it if you really want to listen to what that person is saying.
Suspending your immediate judgment has to do with listening without formulating a response just yet and staying open enough.
It’s important to make a commitment not to interrupt. Wait because people need to feel that they are heard. Only interrupt someone if they’re being offensive or abusive.
Paraphrasing is really the best first thing that you can say once you’ve been listening to a segment of someone’s story.
When you hit it right, you see the other person lighten up. If you hit it wrong, you get a red light.
It’s also important to “listen” to nonverbal communication.
Brains don’t really love to multitask. Many people actually resist multitasking. You are multitasking if you’re listening and considering what you’re going to say next. Wait until the person is finished and then formulate your response.
My guest today is video marketing strategist Sheryl Plouffe. Sheryl shares with us her expertise on how to create your own video show from scratch. Tune in and if you launch your show anytime soon, make sure to let us know!
On today’s podcast:
- The benefits of creating your own show
- Live vs recorded
- Tools you might want to use
- How to promote your show
The benefits of creating your own show
One of the benefits of having your own show is that it keeps you on track. As entrepreneurs, we need to be creating content.
Another benefit is that it keeps you accountable to your audience. When you tell the world you’re launching a show and that you’re going to commit to that, this keeps you accountable.
A third benefit has to do with consistency. If you commit to a weekly show, it keeps you consistent.
Live vs recorded
If you are thinking about launching a video show on Facebook, do it. It will allow you to better connect with people.
When you put yourself out there on video you’re allowing people into your life.
If you choose a live show, it’s much more authentic. You can’t edit it. A recorded video can be an easier option.
Tools you might want to use
If you’re doing an interview-style show, you should consider using Zoom.
Another good tool is Switcher Studio. It allows you to do a show with prerecorded video. You can switch in between elements, including yourself live.
How to promote your show
There are many ways to promote your show. You can start by promoting your show to your existing email list. You can also include your show in your signature at the bottom of your email.
You can also promote it on your Facebook profile or on other social media.
Don’t forget word-of-mouth. Tell people about it.
Today’s episode is all about curiosity. It’s important to realize that our natural curiosity changes as we grow older. There are more and more things holding us back. It’s important to acknowledge these things and be proactive. My guest today, Dr. Diane Hamilton, has some fantastic advice to share with us.
On today’s podcast:
- There are four things holding us back
- Recognize your fear and do something about it
- Make yourself a little uncomfortable
- The dangers of technology
- Our environment can also hold us back
There are four things holding us back
There really isn’t a good tool to measure curiosity yet. Diane discovered that there are four things that are holding people back:
- Assumptions of the way things are or should be
- The environment
Curiosity can be either positive or negative. Some people get into analysis paralysis, they plan and plan, and don’t get things done.
Recognize your fear and do something about it
There are always fears holding you back from many kinds of decisions. Many people don’t dip their toe in the water because it’s not cool to do so. You think you might look goofy.
Many people fear what other people will think. It’s a very hard thing for us to overcome.
It’s very important to recognize that it’s the fear that’s holding you back and do something about it. Fear really comes down to the stories we tell ourselves.
You have to ask yourself, “What is the value I’m missing because of holding back?”
Make yourself a little uncomfortable
Many people do things because they assume that they should be doing these things. They don’t open themselves up to options because that’s the way it has always been done.
We limit ourselves to this little bubble we think it’s the world. You don’t even know what you don’t know until you get out there.
It’s good to make yourself a little uncomfortable.
The dangers of technology
Technology can be intimidating. You have to learn a new trade and you can feel overwhelmed.
Another type of people feel too comfortable with technology and allow it to do everything for them.
Sometimes technology keeps you from asking the questions, because the answers are readily available. Eventually you might end up not knowing what you might be missing, because technology has already figured out all the steps along the way.
Our environment can also hold us back
The environment can also seriously hold us back. Some of our natural curiosities can be cut out at school or at home.
Our family might not even know that they are holding us back.
Now with social media, we also have a new environment of people expecting us to behave in a certain way.