In this episode of the show Coach, Speaker and Author Jeanie Cisco-Meth joins as a guest. When Jeanie was a young girl, everyone knew she was different. When she got into school, the labeling began. She had so many learning disabilities and physical differences she stood out. She had dyslexia, she couldn’t talk very well, she was legally blind, by the eighth grade she was six feet tall, she was a cancer survivor, and the list goes on. Jeanie has made the it her crusade to stop bullying, not only working in the corporate world, but taking her message right into the schools. Jeanie disses why people bully, how to confront bullies, and she share some insight from her two books.
One from the archives – This show was originally posted on April 18th, 2018
This week I have two amazing guests: Danny Creed and Craig Marshall. Together they are on a mission to help entrepreneurs make the most out of their ventures. Join us for a truly inspirational talk!
On today’s podcast:
- How to deal with everyday stress
- The benefits of meditation
- Nevermind your failures
- How to be comfortable with yourself
How to deal with everyday stress
Danny works with a lot of executives and entrepreneurs, and he realizes that now that we have access to technology 24/7, most of us think that we should do everything. One of the first steps in professional relief of stress is to organize your day.
If anybody tries to sell you time management, run. You have to learn to prioritize the things you need to do and then manage your time accordingly.
A German philosopher once said, “Never allow the most important things in life to be at the mercy of the least important things”.
For thousands of years, yogis have known that most of us think, on average, about 1000 thoughts an hour. The goal of yoga is to slow things down so that we can go deeper and think more creative thoughts.
Yogis developed very simple breathing techniques. When you meditate, your heartbeat slows down and your thoughts slow down as well.
Nevermind your failures
Danny’s philosophy on a mistake or a problem is that it’s a failure only if you don’t learn something from it.
Danny’s four-step process to overcome your failures is:
- What happened? Be very honest and don’t point any blame at someone else
- Why did it happen?
- How will it never happen again?
- See you later aka move forward and don’t look back
It’s not a big deal to reframe our challenges if we really understand the need to look at them from another level.
We are all creating our own reality. Our thoughts are turning into things, so it’s really all about focus. If we frame something as a failure, we’re going to get more of it. It’s a spiral and there is no happy ending to an unhappy journey, as Craig likes to say.
We all have inner self-talk. Through meditation and mindfulness practices, we can reframe who we think we are.
Most people live a “circumstantial life”: they believe that once they get all their ducks lined up they will be happy. When we’re at peace, we draw all the circumstances we want.
How to be comfortable with yourself
We’ve been trained to give the easy answer instead of the right answer in life. Danny asks people “Do you live your life in survival mode or possibility mode?”
The Life Success Chart is a pie chart broken down into nine areas of life that Danny and Craig use. They ask people to put a dot in every one of these slices. If you put a dot in the middle of the pie, it means 0, if you put it on the outer side, it is a 10. So if you reply with a 5 at a specific slice, you would place your dot somewhere in the middle.
You end up with 9 dots on the pie chart. If you connect all these dots, it’s an amazing graphic picture to look at.
The word “yoga’ from Sanskrit literally means union. Yoga is a lifestyle, it doesn’t have to do just with the body.
In order to get a hold of our minds, we have to first recognize that sometimes our minds cannot control our minds.
One from the archives – This show was originally posted on June 19th 2018
Are you aware of the habits that are limiting your career advancement? If you want to have more influence and more power, it’s time to put an end to certain patterns of thinking. To help you achieve that, I’ve invited someone I truly admire: author and executive coach Marshall Goldsmith.
On today’s podcast:
- The profile of the leader of the future
- Don’t always add value and listen to your people
- Don’t sacrifice your career for your job
- Become aware of what is limiting your career and start making changes
The profile of the leader of the future
The leader of the future has to have four attributes, according to Marshall:
- The ability to think globally and being able to manage people in a global setting.
- Cross-cultural appreciation. Diversity is not just about dealing with minorities in the US, but also about dealing with different cultures all around the world.
- Being tech-savvy. We can no longer hide from technology.
- Being able to build alliances and partnerships. Nowadays leadership is much more across, instead of being top-down.
- Shared leadership. In the past, leaders assumed they knew more than the people they led. Today the leader is no longer superior. Leaders of the future have to quit being the smartest person in the room.
Don’t always add value and listen to your people
In his job as an executive coach Marshall gives people a lot of feedback. His clients pick the areas in which they need to make the most changes, and he helps them with that.
He says that managers have a constant tendency of giving too much value. It’s very hard for smart, successful people not to constantly add value. Your suggestions as an executive become orders and you can end up diminishing the ideas of your employees.
Before you speak, breathe, and ask yourself, “Is it worth it? If I am not the expert on this topic, why am I speaking? Anything I say will probably end up doing more harm than good.”
Don’t sacrifice your career for your job
Marshall’s latest book, “How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job”, is a collaboration with Sally Helgesen. The idea was to create a book for any woman who is ready to advance to the next level.
One of the brilliant concepts in the book is sacrificing your career for your job. Women are much more likely to do this than men. They can get so wrapped up in doing a great job, that they don’t really invest in their career. They tend to have this naive assumption that if they do a good job, it should be the best thing to advance their career.
What you should be doing is always looking at that next job. If you’re not careful, you can become indispensable. Then you’re really stuck. Indispensable means, “We can’t get rid of her, she’s adding too much value.”
Become aware of what is limiting your career and start making changes
Women are much better than men at giving credit to others and saying we instead of I. This is generally a good thing. The only problem is that sometimes you need to get promoted.
If you want to make a bigger, more positive difference in the world, you need to have more power. You can’t influence people with no power.
If you want more power, you need to be aware of the things that stop your career. If you think, “I love my team so much, I’m ashamed to be promoted”, you ultimately limit your career and the influence you can have in the world.
We hold on to mental models too much. If we say, “That’s the way I am” with no intention of changing anything, then we will always get what we always got. We always have a choice. If we want more power and more authority, we need to change this way of thinking.
Behavioral Psychologist Dr. Denise Dudley take the guest chair and joins Chris on this weeks episode. Denise outlines a snap shot of passive, aggressive, and assertive people. She then adds some advice for leaders in knowing the best way to interact with these personalities. Denise then shares her definition of passive aggressive people and how to talk to an assertive person if they need to receive some corrective feedback.
This show really outlines the information needed to interact with these 3 personalities. This is a must listen show.
In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Podcast, Chris is joined by Executive Coach and Podcast Host Tom Henschel. Tom discusses the four elements leaders need to have to ensure they are ready to enter into a coaching relationship. The four elements are:
- Curiosity – Outlining if there is a natural shift from being a leader to being a learner
- Self-Reflection – How important is it for the leader to develop a habit of looking at themselves?
- Self-Responsibility – This is where the leader needs to be responsible for their own accountability
- Resilience – Tom lays out the need for the being resilienant and the importance to achieve your Ultimate Success.
Here is a link to download the info graphic covering these four elements.
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In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Chris Cebollero is joined by Speaker, Author and Coach Bo Brabo. Bo stops by to share his leadership expertise regarding the importance of After Action Reviews and how they are essential for the growth of a team, and organization. He discusses how best to cultivate a value based organization and the keys to use those values to inspire and motivate the workforce. Bo shares his thoughts about his book From the Battlefield, to the White House, to the Boardroom. Bo had the opportunity to work at the White House during President Bush and President Obamas administration. What was the biggest lesson Bo took from that experience? Join the discussion to find out.
In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Chris Cebollero is joined by Business and Leadership Coach Eleanor Beaton. Eleanor brings her expertise in discussing how leaders are feeling disassociated with this workforce, organization and responsibilities. This pandemic is causing leaders to fail like they re failing in their responsibilities. Eleanor outlines tips to overcome these feelings, how to reconnect with a virtual workforce, and how using the power of storytelling and ice breakers make a big difference in bringing the team back together.
Eleanor Beaton is the host of the Power, Presence, Position Podcast heard by listeners around the world.
In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Podcast, Chris is joined by Author, Speaker and Coach Tracy Bianco. Tracy outlines the 5 Choices a leader needs to make when they are focusing on employee engagement. These 5 choices tip the scales and deal with the growth of the leader and what the leader needs to know before they begin the employee engagement process. Developing the workforce is an important component of developing a highly engaged workforce. The missing component is the internal focus of the leader in this engagement process. Join the discussion as we take a microscopic deep dive into the 5 Choices a leader needs to make to truly engage the workforce.
Dean Graziosi joins Chris Cebollero on this weeks episode of the Ultimate Leadership Podcast. Dean outlines the Digital Information Business, and the course Tony Robbins and he created called the Knowledge broker Blueprint. This course is a science that pulls outlines the secrets of over 60 years of experience that Dean and Tony share. The course is made up of 6 modules, and over 21 topics that teaches the science of developing your own Mastermind Classes, or allows you the ability to Broker and develop Mastermind courses for others. Dean discusses the catalyst for developing the course, a brief journey as to the development of the course, the motivation for bringing this course to light, and some of the high points as to what the course can do for your personal and professional development. On a personal note, Dean also shares a bit on his passions for two important charities Operation Underground Railroad, and Feeding America. This is one show that will outline and define your professional and personal development journey. In these times of uncertainty and frustration, if you are looking for a new direction, this is the show for you.
In this episode of the Ultimate Leadership Podcast, Chris is joined by Author, Speaker and Coach Rocky Romanella. Rocky shares his expertise on what organizations need to do to prepare for life after Covid. We are living the new normal during this pandemic, but organizations have now think about the future when the pandemic is over. How do you develop a go forward strategy? How best do we deal with mistakes and shortfalls? Who is the best person to guide us in developing a go forward plan? These are just a few of the questions that get answered on this show.